The dictionary definition of self-esteem is “having a favorable impression of yourself.” And part of having a favorable impression of yourself is having a good body image.
Ladies, I am talking to you. Why is it that women are the worst about looking at themselves unfavorably? Why are we so darn abusive to ourselves? We are constantly comparing our bodies to other women’s, and it seems we are rarely happy with how we look.
Does this sound familiar: You’re looking through some old pictures when you find a photo of yourself from 10 years ago and suddenly realize, “Hey, I looked pretty good back then.” How many of us have looked back at high school pictures and longed to look just that way again?
But how did you feel about yourself back then? Did you have that self-doubting inner dialogue then too, wasting thoughts worrying about cellulite or arm fat?
What a waste of time. Ten years from now I believe we will look back at pictures of ourselves today and think the same thing.
We have to also teach our daughters that this is a waste of time. Young girls are so wrapped up in their image that they cannot appreciate how beautiful they really are. They have the loud internal voice: “I hate my legs. My arms are flabby. My hair is too curly.” Little do they know they look amazing but part of looking amazing is having confidence.
As someone who is middle aged, I’m able to look back and really appreciate all the stages of life, but I also know that things change and we change — sometimes for the better.
That is why we have to quit comparing ourselves to other women. Quit wasting our time wishing our abs were flatter or our arms skinnier. Quit beating ourselves up about what we ate or how long we worked out. Trade in that self doubt for more positive thinking and be realistic about what you can achieve at any given age. If we feel good about ourselves on the inside, it will show volumes on the outside.